If you don’t like Christmas

If anyone else is finding Christmas Day hard, for ANY reason, please feel free to come to this thread. You can voice what you want /need to here.

I find Christmas Day very hard because, as many of you know,I had a highly abusive mother, and my memories of Christmas Day are terrible. The minute the lights in town start to go up I start to ffeel fear. Of course, that continues until Christmas Day itself. Then there are bereavements. My lovely grandmother.

So PLEASE feel free to come here if this is not a good day for you.
Lorraine xx

26 thoughts on “If you don’t like Christmas

  1. Thank you, Lorraine! I really miss my son and other family members! I’m isolated every day, but it’s especially depressing at the holidays. I also get sick each and every Christmas… Still have to make dinner and put on the fake happy face, and give the husband the obligatory presents so he doesn’t get mad and call me miserable. Just let this day be over!

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  2. blindzanygirl

    Thankyou Colin. I can’t wait to get the day over. I positively hate it, and I SO agreed with all that you said. You could not have said it better. I just hate all of it, and for all the reasons you give. I am in solidarity. ❤️

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  3. blindzanygirl

    Crystal I’m really sorry it’s so bad for you too. I am sorry that you feel so alone even though you have a husband and it is exactly the same for me as my husband has been abusive in the past as well as my mother and so Christmases have terrible memories for me. My brother and sister rejected me completely after my mother‘s death because they and she were always together in things and I was the scapegoat and I’m sure that you will know about malignant narcissism. That’s what my mum was. Somehow or other I managed to make a life for myself spiralling away when I was 19 and made good mostly in the academic world. From what I felt about you you’ve done the same thing and they got yourself in many different ways. I must admit I find the traditional Christian faith really hard but maybe that’s just because people who claim to have it do not show it very well at least not the left side of it. I understand where you’re coming from when you mentioned the goddess I learnt a lot about that in my time. Like me you have turned to music as well and you have music is fantastic and how wonderful it would’ve been if we could’ve got together as we have so much in common. I so appreciate your block but just feel so very very sad that you to find Christmas so terrible. The putting on an act it’s just so horrible but some of us have to do it and I wish it were not so. I am sending you all the love and hugs in the world crystal. Please email me any time because you were so kind to me that night when I was feeling bad. Place now I amlways thwre for you too ❤️❤️❤️

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  4. blindzanygirl

    Thankyou Jenna. I think I know why it is hard for you in another way, and really appreciate that. Prayers and hugs for you too. I am glad that in general you enjoy the day thiugh. Hless you Henna ❤️❤️❤️

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  5. A friend from Xanga posted on FB and wished that everyone be gentle with themselves today. She said that for many it wasn’t a day of joy but one of trauma. Accepting gentleness was a gift to one’s self to cushion the heart from the past… I hope gentleness for you today and every day!

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  6. blindzanygirl

    Thanks Pete. I thought of you yesterday, because I remembered you saying that once before, i too would not choose to have Christmas Day. But likebyou say, you have to go with the flow. Though we don’t now. We did not celebrate at all yesterday and were happy not to. I was SO glad for this place yesterday. In fact therebhave been many times when I would not have got by without WP. I owe it anlot, it being all I can do nowadays. I hope Ollie enjoyed his five presents though. Xx

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